Black & White Thinking
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It’s a challenge we all face from time to time: black-and-white thinking. It shows up when we shrink a complex situation into a simple either/or conclusion. It’s fast, it feels certain, and it gives us a sense of control. But it also blinds us. As leaders, this mindset can pull us away from curiosity, creativity, and empathy—the things we need most to navigate the gray spaces where meaningful decisions are actually made.
I’ve had plenty of moments in my life when I got news I didn’t want to hear and immediately snapped into black-and-white mode. It’s a human reaction. But part of our work as leaders is noticing when we fall into that pattern.
Leadership today is full of complexity. Most challenges come wrapped in nuance, ambiguity, and competing priorities. Add time constraints, limited information, and the pressure to get things right, and suddenly it can feel like there are only two options: either this or that.
Under stress, it becomes even easier to think this way.
Either we did it right, or we blew it.
Either they loved the presentation, or they hated it.
They either follow instructions perfectly on the field or completely ignore them.
And sometimes that thinking becomes so extreme that it’s overwhelming. In those cases, seeking professional mental health support—from a licensed therapist, counselor, or another qualified provider—is absolutely the right move.
I like the way Alex Bachert breaks down the signs of black-and-white thinking. It’s worth the read if you want a quick, helpful overview: https://www.rula.com/blog/black-and-white-thinking/
This kind of thinking comes up in coaching sessions because sometimes people just get stuck. They’ve overanalyzed or under analyzed something, let bias sneak in, or convinced themselves there are only two possible outcomes. That’s where having a coach—or simply someone who isn’t as close to the situation—can help shine a light on possibilities you can’t currently see.
As leaders, we have to be aware of our blind spots, and black-and-white thinking is a big one. It doesn’t just show up in how we judge our own situations—it shows up in how we see the people on our teams. We might catch ourselves thinking, “They either nailed that presentation or completely missed the mark,” or “They either take initiative or just wait for direction.” But people—and their performance—live in the gray. Growth, effort, and contribution often exist somewhere in between the extremes.
Every leader has to reflect on why black-and-white thinking shows up for them and when it tends to take over. For many of us, it’s tied to perfectionism: If we didn’t make the perfect choice, say the perfect thing, or nail the perfect outcome, then we must be the opposite of that.
But that’s simply not true—and the world is far more flexible than that mindset allows.
So here’s the question I’ll leave you with:
What’s your strategy for finding your way back when you fall into black-and-white thinking?
Steve